There is a story told of a wedding where the priest said to the groom,”Do you take this woman for better for worse? For richer or for poorer? In sickness and in health?” and the groom replied “Yes, No, Yes, No, Yes, Yes” – We all want the better, richer and healthier parts of marriage, but that’s not how it works. Unless we are prepared for the testing times too and willing to see outside ourselves to the other’s needs, it will not last I’m afraid. Know what you’re signing up for so that you can keep the contract as best you can. This applies to both parties, obviously.
I have been one of the lucky ones, I have been very happily married for almost 20 years now and have never once had an argument serious enough to consider divorce, murder yes, but divorce never and personally I believe that for any partnership to succeed, it is a lot about communication and team work. If you re not ‘pulling together’, it will eventually pull apart. It is a fact that most marriages end due to one (or both) parties primarily thinking of themselves, whether it be by looking outside the marriage to fulfill themselves or simply not caring enough for the other. It is also about adjusting to the changing circumstances, .e.g. if you are blessed with children, work demands or changing health conditions etc. It’s being aware and willing to adjust to these changes within the marriage, always working together and helping each other. (just as we should with everyone in life) and never losing the connection which brought you together in the first place. Also personally our faith and gratitude is important – “the family who prays together, stays together.”
So, “Success in marriage is much more than finding the right person, it’s being the right person.”
p.s. Unfortunately, they say marriage is the root cause of divorce.